Picking Out the Perfect Personal Lubricant

If you’re having sex or masturbating without plenty of high-quality lube, you’re doing it wrong. Personal lubricant is affordable, easy to come by, and a downright essential to a good orgasm. In fact, most people refuse to get busy if the lube game isn’t on point. What have you been doing this whole time?

Back in the day, folks used to slap olive oil on their junk and call it a day. I hope you’re not one of those people. Modern-day personal lubricants are amazing, plus they’re much better for your skin and sexual organs. Today’s lubes are top-notch, but that doesn’t mean you’ll know exactly which one to buy when the time comes.

The Three Main Types of Lube

Personal lubrication comes in many forms, but there are only three main types:

  1. Silicone-Based – Favored for it’s long-lasting, never-drying properties, silicone-based lubricants are hypoallergenic and silky-smooth to the touch. Many high-end varieties are combined with extra features such as tingling, warming or cooling. However, silicone-based lube can stain and is often difficult to wash off.
  2. Oli-Based – Prized for its ability to stay sleek and sexy during long love-making sessions, oil-based personal lubricants are moisturizing and luxurious. Top-shelf oil lubes sometimes have bonus features too, but much like silicone-based lubes, oil-based varieties can be tough to wash off and may stain fabrics.
  3. Water-Based – Hailed as the most versatile personal lubrication option available, water-based lubes are hypoallergenic, toy-friendly and relatively long-lasting. Made to pack a powerful punch with all the bells and whistles as the others, water lubes differ in that they’re edible and often come in yummy flavors. Oh, and this type of lube doesn’t stain nor is it a pain in the ass to wash off.

I read through the three main types of lube and instantly made up my mind about which one I was going to use. However, I learned the hard way that it’s just not that simple. Fortunately, there are only a few more basics you need to know before you can find the perfect personal lubricant.

Three Ways to Find the Best Personal Lubricant

Familiarizing yourself with your options is only half the battle. You must also consider a few things about yourself to determine which lube is right for you. Go through these simple steps and come out on the other side wet for all the right reasons:

  • Carefully Consider Your Skin Type

When selecting a good lube, always think about your skin type first. Consider the skin type of your partner as well, assuming you have one of those. Skin sensitivities are no fun in the heat of the moment, and neither are rashes and allergic reactions. The wrong lube can cause redness, pain, and a whole host of unwelcomed side effects. Be diligent here.

My advice: Always check the ingredients list on each lube in your shopping cart. The first item listed is the main ingredient. It is what the product contains the most of. If you and/or your partner has an aversion to that ingredient, skip to the next lube you’re considering.

  • Be Super Honest About Your Sex Life

Knowing which kind of sex you’re likely to have will go a long ay towards helping you pick out the perfect lube. Do you plan to engage in vaginal, anal, or oral sex? Will there be any sex toys involved? Is your sex life spiced up with plenty of variety (meaning you’ll probably enjoy all of the above)? You’ll need to know that stuff before buying lube with any confidence.

The reason being: Some lube types cannot/should not be used for certain activities. For example, oil-based and silicone-based lubricants are not ideal for silicone sex toys. On the other hand, water-based lubes may not have the staying power you need for anal sex. If, however, your sex life is relatively boring, you may want to keep things simple while shopping. Choose wisely, folks. Your sex life depends on it (even if you don’t really have one).

Like Booze: Enjoy Your Sex Toys Responsibly

As mentioned above, the personal lubricant you choose must match the activity and/or tools you enjoy the most in your sex life. The best way to make sure everything lines up is to consider the materials with which your sex toys are made. Most are comprised of skin-safe stuff like silicone, TPE, polycarbonate, elastomer, and even glass or stainless-steel. However, lubes are not a one-type-fits-all product.

The type of lube you require may be different than someone else, so make sure you have plenty to go around. In general, water-based lubes are considered the best. However, that’s not to say that oil-based and silicone-based varieties don’t have their merits. At the end of the day, it’s all about sorting through your choices using these three tips discussed here.

6 Self-Care Tips for a Better Sex Life

A well-rounded sex life is probably more important than you think. In fact, recent studies have shown than frequent sex has numerous benefits, including many that directly affect your health. Good sex can eliminate stress, reduce pain, boost your mood and even prolong your life, so why wouldn’t you do everything possible to make it as advantageous as possible?

Many people think they know all there is to know about proper sex etiquette, but that simply isn’t the case. Especially when it comes to having sex with a partner and/or masturbating with a sex toy, there are a few specific strategies that must be understood. Unfortunately, we aren’t taught this stuff in high school health class.

Basically, there are six main ways to take care of yourself, your private parts, and your love lair so that partners will feel comfortable and invited. And even if you have lots of sex by yourself, the following tips and tricks can help keep infections, skin irritations, and social stigmas at bay:

Keep Your Family Jewels Shiny

In many cultures, a person’s genitals are considered prized possessions. They’re highly regarded and cared for like a priceless work of art. Whether gorgeous or mangled, genitalia are the hub of all pleasure and procreation, meaning they require and deserve special attention. If you’re currently ignoring the condition of your private parts, stop it right now.

One of the first things your partner will see when you get ready to have sex is your dick/pussy. He or she will pay very close attention to the details, noting the appearance, size, texture and smell. Are your genitals up to par? Keep your family jewels shined up with a daily bath in soap and water, and as always, thoroughly wash up after sex and masturbation (even if you’re by yourself).

Eat a Healthy Diet

They say you are what you eat, but that might be truer than you think. Countless studies have determined that the quality of the food you eat plays a huge role on more than just your overall health. It can also affect your energy levels, appearance and even the taste of your ejaculate. So, if you consume a ton of unhealthy foods and drinks, you won’t have the gumption to keep up with your partner, given your ugly ass can even get a date with your nasty-tasting jizz.

PRO TIP: Before you’re about to engage in oral sex, be sure to consume at least two 8-ounce glasses of pineapple juice about four hours prior. Not only will it give you a burst of energy but it will also make your ejaculate taste much sweeter.

Change Your Sheets

The average person washes their sheets once every other week, or right after some hot, sloppy sex, whichever comes first. However, there’s no rule that says you can’t do it more often. In fact, the only steadfast rule is that you can’t wash your sheets any less than bi-monthly. After all, who wants to get dirty on a filthy mattress?

Not only are dirty bed clothes a health hazard but they also tell your partner that you haven’t prepared for their arrival. It sets precedence on other factors in your relationship, including your willingness to primp and pamper when necessary. In short, dirty sheets say you don’t give a damn and that’s no way to start a pants party.

Maintain Your Sex Toys

If you play with high-tech sex toys (and I hope you do), please be sure to use them responsibly. The sex toy industry already has to deal with mountains of social taboos; the last thing anyone needs is a bad reputation stemming from improper ownership habits. In other words, maintain your stuff so we can all enjoy the technological advancements that are headed our way.

Get Physical

Proper amounts of exercise can go a long way towards supporting a healthy sex life. In fact, most cases of erectile dysfunction are caused by poor circulation, and vaginal dryness can have its roots in bad blood flow too. Physical activity helps detoxify the body, supports cardiovascular wellness, boosts your mood and generally makes you look more attractive overall.

Check-Up on Yourself

The importance of seeing a doctor regularly cannot be overstated, especially when we’re talking about your sexual health and love life. Physicians will be able to recognize any problems before they get out of hand, plus they can recommend products to you based on your needs, desires and health hurdles.

Granted, doctor’s visits can make or break your sex life. However, isn’t it better to know whether you have a problem than it is to find out later (or after someone gets hurt)? Responsible adulthood requires a lot, but one of the most important is self-care that includes routine medical check-ups.

Three Reasons Why You Should Be Having Frequent Sex

The sex industry is booming like never before, with modern culture virtually worshiping it. And although the superior sensations produced by satisfying sexual activity are well-documented and well-understood, many people still don’t know what all the fuss is about. Meanwhile, contemporary science has recently discovered that there are numerous benefits associated with frequent fucking.

As it turns out, regular sex and masturbation, especially sessions that lead to eventual ejaculation, can be extremely helpful in a wide variety of circumstances. Those who engage in frequent sex often have better check-ups at the doctor’s office, for one. For two, sex and masturbation are the most customizable activity that any of us can ever engage in. Thirdly, sexual gratification puts everyone in a better mood. And if you look around the world for one second, you’ll see how we could all use a little dick-me-up (I mean “pick-me-up”).

Interestingly, that’s only the beginning. There are actually a lot of good reasons to seek satisfying sex wherever you can. In fact, the following are only the top 3 most common reasons why you should be having as much sex as humanly possible, whether with yourself or others:

  • Sex Is a Lot of Fun

Did you know that reaching orgasm can boost your mood and balance your hormones at the same time? According to recent studies, achieving a satisfying sexual climax has as many benefits to a person’s temperament as high-powered mood-altering drugs. Some scientists are even exploring the possibility of substituting prescription medication with sexual stimulation. Ok, so maybe I’m the only one imagining that, but it makes perfect sense if you think about it.

Because sex produces so much physical, mental and emotional pleasure, it’s commonly categorized as one of the most enjoyable things a person can do with their spare time. In fact, some people have even made a career out of it – Think: porn stars, sex toy designers and sex bloggers like me. When my high school guidance counselor told me that I should try to be something that would make me happy even if I had to do it for free, I’m sure she didn’t imagine this.

  • Sex Can Create and/or Support Interpersonal Bonds

Have you ever wondered why you suddenly feel connected to someone after you have sex with them, especially if you have sex more than once? Frequent sexual encounters with a person can create bonds where there were none, not to mention the fact that they can also support and promote better bonds that already exist. Yes, orgasm is a togetherness exercise, and it’s time that you started thinking of the community.

Research has shown that orgasm produces a whole host of sensations that are created by the release of certain hormones. Those hormones, which include yummy things like serotonin and dopamine, actually trick your mind and heart into experiencing the feels. In other words, frequent sex might smooth over some of the cracks in your current union, if not create a union out of thin air.

  • Sex Can Increase Your Wellbeing

There have been a lot of studies done about the health benefits of orgasm. In fact, popular publications from around the world have covered the topic numerous times, with new discoveries being made every year. What we know so far is that frequent sex can increase a person’s overall wellbeing as long as that sex is experienced in a positive relationship. In other words, sex creates bonds and then sex secures those bonds, and meanwhile, sex with someone you’re bonded with makes you feel better from the inside out. Is it just me or does this stuff seem intelligently designed?

Getting the Most Out of Your Sex Life

Having sex and/or masturbating as often as possible is one thing, but what happens when you have trouble reaching orgasm or ejaculating? Are the benefits of frequent sex still there? How can you make sure that orgasm is achieved each and every time?

Unfortunately, even the most talented porn stars in the world have problems with ejaculation from time to time. What’s more, the issues only get worse with age. And while nobody should expect a mind-blowing orgasm every single time that they have sex or masturbate, the following things should make it a little easier on everyone:

  • Use Tons of Lube

No matter whether you’re having conventional sex or pleasuring yourself, using plenty of personal lubrication is important. Many brands even offer lubes that have bonus features like warming, cooling and tingling. For best results, find a high-quality lube that works with your skin type and performs well with your intended uses.

  • Keep Yourself Clean

Good sex, if you do it right, can be an extremely messy activity. But a dirty crotch will not perform at optimal levels and this better not be the first time you’ve heard someone say that. Keep your genitals clean at all times, and always wipe up any sexual debris left over from your last escapade before beginning a new one.

  • Incorporate Some Sex Toys

Getting your rocks off appropriately often requires a little help from technology. Mankind’s perversion has been good for many things, including the invention of some of the most amazing sex toys the world has ever seen. There’s literally something for everybody, and many of the high-end interfaces are designed specifically for couples play.

5 Creative Ways to Have Sex and Reach Orgasm

It doesn’t matter what anyone says, reaching a satisfying sexual climax isn’t always simple. For many people, orgasm only comes after tons of practice and a mountain of patience. For others, it’s as easy as 1-2-3. Regardless of where you stand on the spectrum, keeping things interesting in the bedroom has a way of making orgasm much easier and more enjoyable for everybody involved.

Fortunately, getting creative in the sack isn’t as hard as you (and/or your partner) are. While ideas can be found in any modern-day pornographic movie, some of the best sexual innovations come straight from our minds and hearts. After all, the bodies we were given already have everything required to produce a mind-blowing, health-supporting orgasm.

It’s almost as though nature already knew what we needed, isn’t it? Still, a little help never hurts. Make your sex life fun, exciting and satisfying again by educating yourself on what all the cool kids are doing. Stop having sex the way your grandparents did (sorry about the visual); modern-day love-making calls for creativity and I’m about to give you plenty of it.

The Top 5 Creative Ways to Have Sex (and Reach Orgasm)

Did you know that there are at least 10 benefits to achieving a decent sexual climax, or orgasm? Therefore, putting some effort into this is a good idea, especially if you value your own wellbeing. Here are five terrific ways to engage in some seriously satisfying sexual activity that (hopefully) leads to a righteous nut:

  • Good Ole Masturbation

Sometimes, the only person who can get you off is yourself. And while there’s nothing wrong with that whatsoever, using the palm of your hand or your fingers is a rookie mistake. Today’s sex toy market is replete with self-pleasure devices that are designed to make masturbation an event, not just a survival skill. With things like automatic motors, customizable textures and skin-safe materials, there’s something out there for virtually everybody.

  • Mutual Masturbation, AKA: Heavy Petting

You used to be afraid to do this when your parents were home, but now that you have all the free time in the world you’ve forgotten about how fun it can be. Heavy petting, or as I like to call it: mutual masturbation, can act as a warm-up activity or as the whole game if the opportunity arises. Tickle, squeeze and tease your way to an orgasm that makes you feel young and sexy again. And if all else fails, you two rascals can add a couple’s sex toy to the mix and make it an even naughtier experience.

  • Vaginal Penetration

Having sex with a vagina is amazing, and as juvenile as that statement sounds, it cannot be argued with unless you’re attracted to men only. And whole vaginal sex is the standard, that doesn’t mean it can’t be done with flair. Whether incorporating sex toys, practicing new moves and positions or simply playing with speeds and intensity levels, creative vaginal intercourse is a surefire way to induce orgasm (especially if special attention is paid to the clitoris and/or g-spot). P.S. There are special sex toys that are made specifically do that for you.

  • Anal Penetration

This type of sex is only for the pros, or at least for the people who have taken the time to learn about the dos and don’ts of anal penetration. Whether using a toy or your own body, anal pleasures are extreme and addicting. The human anal cavity is full of super sensitive nerve endings and a little gland called “the p-spot.” And while many people think that prostate stimulation only works on men, that’s simply not true. Anal sex is just as fun for the ladies, so don’t be shy about adding it to your playbook.

  • Oral Sex

Everyone loves good head, so ignoring the value of oral sex can wreak havoc on your ability to give or achieve orgasm. Cunnilingus and fallacio are both welcomed in the modern bedroom, and if you don’t think you can manage long enough to get your partner off, all you have to do is explore the realm of automatic blowjob machines and pussy pumps for a little help. And as always, use plenty of lube when giving lip service to make it feel as good as possible.

Combining Forces: Three Ways to Make Your Bed Rock with a Seamless Sexual Skillset

Now that you know the basics and have a few ideas on how to engage in creative love-making, it’s time to start experimenting with your body and your partner’s boundaries. This newfound sexual skillset of yours is nothing to keep bottled up. After all, remember how beneficial frequent orgasms can be?

Fortunately, there are several ways to make the most of your updated bedroom routine. However, only the techniques listed below should be attempted, and only by people with an open mind and a healthy respect for sexual safety:

  • Try Multi-Tasking

There’s a lot to be said about being an attentive sexual partner – one that tickles and teases several areas of the body at once. Don’t be afraid to explore your lover’s body (or let them explore yours). And if you really want to have a good time, try multi-tasking with several sex toys, a pair of eager hands, gaping orifices, and primed genitalia at the same time.

  • Give BDSM a Chance

Although BDSM (which stands for “Bondage, Dominance, Sadism and Masochism”) is a unique form of sexual play that requires a lot of trust between participants, it can be a fun addition to a stale love life if it’s done correctly. All you need are a few supplies and a vivid imagination to get the party started.

  • Play with the Weather

Temperature play will never get old. Heat things up or cool it down with the right techniques, providing yourself and your excited lover with a whole host of newly discovered sensations. These types of games are so popular, in fact, that the sex toy industry has actually started making men’s and women’s pleasure products exclusively for it.